Finding Your Voice

I am beginning to realize the importance of finding your voice.

Once an individual has found his or her voice, the true self begins to emerge.  In my opinion, taking the time to understand who you intrinsically are, is one of the most important first steps in being successful.  Why? Because there is so much power in knowing who you are.  Negative influences are less likely to distract you.  By finding your voice, you become a more confident and genuine person, whose persona is attractive to those with whom you interact.  You’ll also like yourself a little more.

A confident person talks and walks in way that makes you take notice.   His speaking voice is strong and you don’t have to cup your hand to your ear to hear him speak. His walk is upright and exudes gracefulness. His presence demands to be felt and commands any room. This person has most likely done some soul searching.  I guarantee he has spent some invaluable time getting to know what makes him tick. That is what finding your voice requires;  you must examine yourself on a level so profound, that you figure out things that even family and friends don’t know about you. You won’t figure it out in one sitting, but frequently having “me time” is how you begin to see the value.

There is a plethora of ways you can spend that “me time.” You can go to the gym or go for a run.  Maybe you decide you’ll just read a good book or listen to some music. All of that is great, however I also encourage folks to keep a journal. Keeping a journal is one of the sure ways of finding your voice. There is something very cathartic about writing.  The same came be said about running/exercising, which is just a different kind of catharsis. Documenting in some fashion what happened on a certain day or writing about whatever is on your mind, is a great way to begin understanding what you care about most.

Don’t over think.  Just write.  Write what’s on your heart because by taking notice of what makes your heart beat or what makes it ache, will change your life.  We know that smoking can cause damage to our lungs because the surgeon general has examined smokers’ lungs.  Do you see where I am going with this?  Well, how would you know what is good or harmful to your heart if you don’t examine it every once in awhile?

Last Thought: You find your voice by understanding who you are and what makes your world go ‘round. Once you have a  pretty solid idea of who you are and make the commitment to continue to grow, you cannot be stopped.

I promise.



Remember to See the Forest for the Trees

One of the many beauties of life, is the fact that we’re constantly challenged. We are challenged to do things which may not show benefit for years to come. Those challenges  are not meant to break us, they are meant to make us both stronger and wiser.  If we approach life’s “not-so-fun” moments with a different mindset, handling those situations becomes much easier.  We simply must remember to see the forest despite the trees. When something’s overall appearance seems detrimental, expend your energy on what’s really important.

Am I saying that you are not going to be disappointed or discouraged at times in your life even with a conscious effort to see the forest for the trees?  Heck no.  However, your reaction is crucial!  Feeling upset can come at any moment, but should not last for but a moment.  For example, an extreme case may be mourning the death of a loved one.  That may be a wound that never completely heals; I just would not want to see that mourning rob you of  living. In a less extreme case, maybe you’re upset about something that just did not come to fruition as you expected.  Don’t dwell on it and just take it in stride.  There is an even greater opportunity that is going to present itself.  Let that thought alone provide you peace.

We have to understand that without the rainy days, we would not appreciate the sunny days.  Without the days that seem like nothing is working in our favor, we would not appreciate the absolutely terrific days.  If we did not know struggle, how would we appreciate the achievement and accolades that are the result of hard work? There are so many things in life that are symbiotic, which means we have to find a way to appreciate even what doesn’t feel or look appealing on the surface.  There is always something bigger and of greater importance in what looks like a negative season/experience.

Do you see how important it is to have a positive mindset in life?  If we begin to teach our minds to be able to see at least a little of the good even when we see mostly bad, it will not only get easier, but we’ll also get faster at distinguishing the good.  No life isn’t going to be easier, but just implementing a mindset that triesreally hard to see the forest in spite of the trees,  life will be easier to manage and understand.